I was able to find a doctor who'd give me a "zero-depth vaginoplasty," i.e., just a vulva. It works for me and requires no maintenance besides normal showering.
You do, however, have to make sure that you never mention any desire for one unless it's with a surgeon you know for certain performs them, because there's the "lack of commitment" again. (And, I mean, it means you can't be penetrated, but it's up to each person how much that matters to them.)
Great point! I wish I had known more about this option because I had the impression that the recovery process would be similar. I don't know if I would have changed my mind but it's just staggering how hard it is to find information about this stuff. Everything I see is just compiled from trans people themselves.
God. I was already aware of how awful the medical field is when it comes to gatekeeping gender affirming care, but the questions convey exactly how asinine it gets. I want bottom surgery, but I feel like I would slip and/or be traumatized by the constant barrage of roadblocks and questions and ultimately fail to ever get what I know I need to feel more at home in my body.
Intro to the game asks if im ok with playing it, which is understandable
Second question asks if im a specific demographic which has been diagnosed by a medical professional
No? well, i guess im not qualified to play the game. Great job. im glad you dont feel like I should even be interacted with if Im not like you exactly.
I guess supporting others isnt something YOU do. Ironic. I thought you were inclusive Brook.
I didnt know that a medical opinion was essential for validation
With all due respect, you're missing the point I'm making. The interview isn't me asking you questions, it's doctors asking *me* questions. It's showing off all the medical gatekeeping that trans women have to go through to get gender affirming surgery. These are all questions or comments that doctors or nurses have asked me or other trans women going through this process. To show how inappropriate and invasive they can be.
It's absolutely not my place, nor the hospitals that perform these surgeries, to determine what "trans enough" is. That's a ridiculous notion, dysphoria or diagnoses are not required to be trans. But these people are in charge of deciding who will and won't get gender affirming surgeries, and so you have to go along with them, and that may mean lying to them to progress forward. This is drawn from my own experience and others' I've spoken with.
I defiantly agree with the point you are trying to make with this. I think its just a bit confusing to first have the "player" asked if they are comfortable with these themes, and then switch the perspective to their game pov without any indication. So instead it feels like its just another question before said experience gets started.
I think it would help the experience a bit if you somehow conveyed to the player in the pov experience th't that is part of said experience. Like saying that the player got an intake form that they had been asked to fill out, or perhaps there is a consultant you are talking to asking these questions. Maybe when it says we're sorry you're not fully committed, being preceded with "Doctor:". Just something to separate it from the first question is all so it doesn't get misinterpreted as such.
Personally, I found the sudden switch to be hard to read as well, but I thought it was thematically appropriate. As someone who hasn't been 'diagnosed' yet, I honestly selected "no" because it's what I thought I should do, after which I'm told that I don't take it serious enough etc etc. It was a slap in the face, but so would getting denied *permission to have surgery* by a doctor because they don't think you're trans enough, or any flavor of wrong that not being the perfect fucking CSM diagnosis of a trans person is. Which is, of course, something we agree on and I'm not gonna continue rehashing those points. I just thought that, personally, the sudden shift from content warnings to Fuck You You Can't Play seemed like it contributes to the frustration conveyed by the questionnaire. Also this is a whole month later response to something you likely don't care about anymore or already thought of yourself idk. so im sorry and i hope you're doing well lmao
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Ooooh that questionnaire started ticking me off, im so sorry folks are forced to interact with that.
so excited to go through all this horseshit when im diagnosed /sarcasm
(Well made btw!!)
I was able to find a doctor who'd give me a "zero-depth vaginoplasty," i.e., just a vulva. It works for me and requires no maintenance besides normal showering.
You do, however, have to make sure that you never mention any desire for one unless it's with a surgeon you know for certain performs them, because there's the "lack of commitment" again. (And, I mean, it means you can't be penetrated, but it's up to each person how much that matters to them.)
Great point! I wish I had known more about this option because I had the impression that the recovery process would be similar. I don't know if I would have changed my mind but it's just staggering how hard it is to find information about this stuff. Everything I see is just compiled from trans people themselves.
God. I was already aware of how awful the medical field is when it comes to gatekeeping gender affirming care, but the questions convey exactly how asinine it gets. I want bottom surgery, but I feel like I would slip and/or be traumatized by the constant barrage of roadblocks and questions and ultimately fail to ever get what I know I need to feel more at home in my body.
Thank you for making this, though.
Thank you for making this im glad someone did, its incredibly educational.
This is really educational. I learned a lot playing through this, which isn't something I ever expected to say about a Pico-8 game.
Intro to the game asks if im ok with playing it, which is understandable
Second question asks if im a specific demographic which has been diagnosed by a medical professional
No? well, i guess im not qualified to play the game. Great job. im glad you dont feel like I should even be interacted with if Im not like you exactly.
I guess supporting others isnt something YOU do. Ironic. I thought you were inclusive Brook.
I didnt know that a medical opinion was essential for validation
That is hateful
With all due respect, you're missing the point I'm making. The interview isn't me asking you questions, it's doctors asking *me* questions. It's showing off all the medical gatekeeping that trans women have to go through to get gender affirming surgery. These are all questions or comments that doctors or nurses have asked me or other trans women going through this process. To show how inappropriate and invasive they can be.
It's absolutely not my place, nor the hospitals that perform these surgeries, to determine what "trans enough" is. That's a ridiculous notion, dysphoria or diagnoses are not required to be trans. But these people are in charge of deciding who will and won't get gender affirming surgeries, and so you have to go along with them, and that may mean lying to them to progress forward. This is drawn from my own experience and others' I've spoken with.
I defiantly agree with the point you are trying to make with this. I think its just a bit confusing to first have the "player" asked if they are comfortable with these themes, and then switch the perspective to their game pov without any indication. So instead it feels like its just another question before said experience gets started.
I think it would help the experience a bit if you somehow conveyed to the player in the pov experience th't that is part of said experience. Like saying that the player got an intake form that they had been asked to fill out, or perhaps there is a consultant you are talking to asking these questions. Maybe when it says we're sorry you're not fully committed, being preceded with "Doctor:". Just something to separate it from the first question is all so it doesn't get misinterpreted as such.
Personally, I found the sudden switch to be hard to read as well, but I thought it was thematically appropriate. As someone who hasn't been 'diagnosed' yet, I honestly selected "no" because it's what I thought I should do, after which I'm told that I don't take it serious enough etc etc. It was a slap in the face, but so would getting denied *permission to have surgery* by a doctor because they don't think you're trans enough, or any flavor of wrong that not being the perfect fucking CSM diagnosis of a trans person is. Which is, of course, something we agree on and I'm not gonna continue rehashing those points. I just thought that, personally, the sudden shift from content warnings to Fuck You You Can't Play seemed like it contributes to the frustration conveyed by the questionnaire. Also this is a whole month later response to something you likely don't care about anymore or already thought of yourself idk. so im sorry and i hope you're doing well lmao
i no longer want one
It's worth it in the end, just a long recovery with lots of upkeep
I wish I knew what you were talking about. Given you dont think its ok for me to play your game